The Untold Story of Mothers-in-Law

When a mother-in-law takes over
When a mother-in-law takes over daughter-in-law’s duty.

Are Mothers Marriage Stumbling Blocks for Sons?

I don’t know why this toxic home phenomenon affects the male children more than the girls. From my perspective, and speaking from experience, this poisonous atmosphere also occurs in many African marriages. After all, the reason may not be far-fetched. The truth is that the relationship between sons and their mothers used to be so close and tight that some mothers may not easily let go of their sons. Hence, they may become a stumbling block in their sons marriage.

When the Home Becomes a “Hell” for Mothers-in-Law

These moms appear to consider themselves the “first wife” in the shadow. Therefore the daughters-in-law must be facing an unseen competitor. Mothers do this a lot.

An inquisitive and angry mother-in-law taking her stand.
An inquisitive and angry mother-in-law taking her stand.

The Bitterness and Internal Fighting

This family war may spread to the whole family tree — son vs. mother, husband vs. wife, wife vs. mother-in-law, brothers-in-law to sisters-in-law, sons vs. sisters just because of the existing toxic relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a result, that poisonous atmosphere can metamorphose into an intense hatred that could be difficult or impossible to correct and manage.

What Goes Around, Comes Around

The funny part of it all is that these daughters-in-law, who fought tooth and nail to show their mothers-in-law hell in their homes, also may become mothers-in-law!
At this stage, one would have thought they must have learned their lessons from the havoc they suffered, and which they condemned bitterly. Surprisingly, they tend to repeat and have the gut to control their own son’s home in the same way or even worse.
Wow! No wonder they say, “What goes around, comes around.” Such is life!

The Giving and the Receiving End of Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law

It’s interesting to note that the mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law affairs, like it or not, affect both sides of the coin. When you belong to the mothers’ side, the (giving side), you may feel that everything is okay as long as mom has the upper-hand. But things might drastically and dramatically change when you’re on the receiving side of the coin, more so when it carries the day! Because sons can join their wives in the battle and throw their moms and the whole family through the window. Yes, through the window!

A mother-in-law doing her stuff.

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Pedro Odubayo Thompson

Pedro Odubayo Thompson

Pedro is a village boy for he was born in a village. He’s a granny’s product bc his grandmother trained him — man of many worlds who had lived on 3 continents.